So I get home from the Police concert last night and leave my car in the valet.  Only I didn’t leave my keys because there was no attendant.   When I wake up this morning my car had been towed.  Not a good feeling.  It gets worse.  Turns out my registration was expired, so when I cabbed it over to the tow company they wouldn’t release my vehicle.  I had to take another cab to a tag agency, run in and grab a new copy, all while the cab is waiting, then bounce back over to get my car.  Anyway I got it worked out.  It’s amazing I could still have a smile on my face today…

This is probably why.   Earlier in the week I had planned to jog with Mitra, the Greek goddess.  Mitra works at a restaurant in South Beach, and over the course of the past month or so, we’ve exchanged contact info and had drinks a couple of times.  Anyway, we agreed to go for a jog.  She lives a block from the beach so I drove to her place and we went for a run.   As we were walking back from the beach, I told Mitra I always get a massage after I run.  She then told me “I give a great massage.” My response, “I’ll be the judge of that.  But I’m very particular who I let touch my body, are you really that good?”

When we got back she suggested I shower while she grabbed some fresh fruit at the corner market.  Cool.  When she got back she cut up the fruit and took her own shower.  We listened to music and I fed her…well the details of what happens is not why I wrote this…read below:

Points:

1. Avoid being relegated to the friend zone by structuring “dates” to activities or places where if things heat up you can get alone quickly and to a place where it can happen.   For instance, I knew that jogging with Mitra would require we wear little in the way of clothing and we would end up back at her apartment.  Driving 2 hours to attend a book reading is probably something I would only consider after being intimate with a woman
2. Constantly be escalating physicality or kino as in kinesthetic (touch).  This is so critical and really takes practice to get right.  If you are just standing around entertaining her, without touching her, you may as well be her girlfriend.
3. Plant the seed of physical comfort by making suggestions such as “I always get a massage after I run” or “do you give good massage?”  This will begin to align  yourself in her mind with the thought of touching your body and make the transition to it far easier

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