A lot of guys think that a date with a woman is limited to a 1 on 1 endeavor best shared over dinner.  There are situations where this makes sense, but I look at dating from a far more multidimensional perspective.  For instance, if I meet a woman at an outdoor café, bar, restaurant, or even a club, she’s nearly always with at least one other girlfriend.  High value women are rarely alone when they go out.  But this is the perfect set up for you to ask a woman and her friends out as a group in a very non committal way. 

For instance, if I approach a set of 3 girls, pick my target, create attraction and move to rapport, I might suggest that my friends and I are going to be at xyz, and that they should meet us there.  Now I will probably always number close the target after this point, but regardless the social pressure is far less for all parties involved if you simply meet up as 2 separate groups at a venue.

Everyone is invited without obligation or expectation.  This kind of emotional environment allows you to be a bit more natural and relaxed as you interact.   Social proof is evident as you have your friends with you and therefore have built in credibility.  If things don’t go so well, you don’t have to force them, simply move on to a different set or a different girl in that same set if you find yourself attracted.  This actually happens more often than you think, and rarely is the original target offended because she senses the two of you are not a match as well.  

As you develop your social network, meeting and being in groups of people becomes very commonplace.   There is nothing to be embarrassed about when attempting to connect to a woman in front of her friends.  As you follow the skill sets detailed in The Dating Matrix, your ability to win over her group of friends and get their endorsement often times acts as a catalyst which will speed you from rapport to intimacy. 

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