Do you find yourself explaining to others why you’re not closing with girls on dates as if that should be the natural outcome?  Yesterday afternoon I was with some friends in S. Beach and there was a guy at our table who knew several girls at the venue.  I heard him say: “I was at such and such place and you guys know I never take a girl home that I don’t know.  Anyway, I was introduced to that girl right over there and we went back to my place.  She had me put on some really sexy music and started dancing like a stripper on my couch.  I just sat back and watched.  It was crazy.  She ended up leaving and this is the first I’ve seen her since. 

Later on he noticed another girl that he knew and one that he wanted to meet seated at her table.  He had a natural “in” by walking over and asking his friend for an introduction but he never did.  Later on, he said “Hi” to the girl he knew when the one he wanted to meet wasn’t around. 

As a group we left the first venue and headed to another.  When we got there the place was dead so we all decided to call it a night.  Right before we went our separate ways, the girl this guy wanted to meet walked right past us on the sidewalk and he didn’t say a word to her.

This guy seems to know quite a few girls, but the problem in my opinion is the inner dialogue that’s taking place in his head.   Somehow he has convinced himself that it’s not “ok” or “gentlemanly” to advance the interaction physically with girls.   His sexual anxiety has created the perception of sex as dirty or shameful.  Clearly a girl you take home requesting sexy music be played and then dancing like a stripper on your couch is sending a very strong message. 

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