Some random thoughts…

Why is it so easy for celebrities to be accepted and create relationships with complete strangers at will?   The reason why is that they have value.  Any person with celebrity has value.  I don’t mean monetarily, morally, or philosophically.  I mean by sheer virtue of the fact that they are constantly in the news, pictured frequently, and have high profile jobs is a form of currency.  This currency manifests itself into instant rapport.  And as you’ve learned, the rapport stage is where the game is played.  This is where you really bond with a woman…which then leads to…

Rapport is a necessary ingredient of all types of successful relationships.  For instance, if I were eating dinner and Lenny Kravitz knocked on my door and said “Hey man, we don’t know each other but I wondered if I could come in for a bit and chill and hang out.”  I would be far more inclined to accept that offer than if Joe Sixpack did the same thing.  I don’t “know” Lenny Kravitz any more than I do “Joe Sixpack”, but of course I know of him, own some of his cd’s, have seen him in the media, dreamed of dating the girls he dates.  These facts transcend the approach, opening, and attraction stages and goes straight to rapport.  You assume rapport immediately with a celebrity because you feel you know him/her…

Years ago I started leafing through various magazines-GQ, Ocean Drive, Vanity Fair, Cosmo, Allure, etc and started clipping out pictures of women whom I thought were beautiful.  I would paste them into a notebook and continually add to them.  Why?  For me it gave me a strong sense in my mind of the type of feminine/physical beauty I was attracted too.  Sure there are tons of pretty girls out there, but I wanted to be with the ones that completely captivated me.  Here is what I learned from doing this:

1. Defined a physical template for who I desired
2. Conditioned me to being automatically drawn to “her”
3. Reduced approach anxiety through familiarity
4. Made me accountable to execute whenever I saw “her”

Would you be more confident approaching a woman if you knew she wanted you to approach her?  Once you develop a sense for how women signal interest and when they’re directing it at you, it makes life much easier.   The key is learning to understand body language.  Understanding body language creates a far higher level of physical self awareness, and as a result sharpens your focus when perceiving others…

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