Cruising around the internet and found the following advice from a woman “expert”:

Once you need something, or you want it too badly, you forfeit your strength and lose all power of negotiation. You are in a position of weakness and you are perceived as weak. Someone (or something) else is in control of you, the situation, and it’s outcome. Men in this situation appear to be anything but confident, strong, and exciting. More, they are perceived as being unworthy and as lacking value.

Translation: Things that are easily acquired, obtained, or maintained, without any effort or sacrifice, lack value… it’s human nature.

The secret to why the cocky guy wins with women, over the nice guy, is that he is perceived as being a stronger, more confident guy with more value. How? He never invests everything — his entire being, ego, and self-worth in what one woman’s response or reaction to him is. He doesn’t gush with compliments; he isn’t always available; he doesn’t give too much; and he knows he isn’t going to die if a woman says “no” to him. More, his attitude is, yeah, I’d like to go out with you, but if I can’t, that’s OK — I’m a busy guy, with exciting things going on.

So true my dear.  I see guys do this all the time, and often times when they feel out of their league with a particular woman.  The questions now becomes what are the practical steps to creating value?  Value in this sense is demonstrated by both verbal and non verbal skill sets.  The Dating Matrix lists 6 non verbal skills which demonstrate value as well as giving you a verbal template to create attraction and therefore value.  Verbal skills trump physical, so if you don’t look like David Beckham no worries. 

The man she describes above has a full life.  He’s not one dimensional or lacking to a point of neediness in any particular area.  Women are very adept at sensing this (men make it pretty easy), but more importantly when you live your life like this the energy you carry yourself with makes it pretty obvious.  But if you’re in the process of creating the life of your dreams, you can still learn how to date the women of your dreams…The Dating Matrix 28 day online program…coming soon

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