I’m saying all the things that I know you’ll like, 
Makin’ good conversation
I gotta handle you just right, 
You know what I mean
I took you to an intimate restaurant,
Then to a suggestive movie
There’s nothin’ left to talk about, 
Unless it’s horizontally

Olivia Newton-John

I’m not a fan of dinner and a movie for first dates or even second dates.  The reason why is because I know the quickest way to become intimate is through rapport.  How can I create rapport going to a movie?  I need to talk, I need to use my non verbals, I need to create that connection. 

Quoting a cheese ball song like the above makes me laugh.   That’s why I put it up.  But it also goes beyond that.  A woman recognizes that at some point the relationship has to get physical.  Especially a woman recognizes that at some point the relationship has to get physical.  Unfortunately most men don’t. 

It’s so completely frustrating to see men who still believe that “getting to home base” happens over a certain number of dates.  Remember, limiting yourself to rigid standards is not going to captivate her.  She needs you to lose the linear, logistical mind.  If you hold yourself to this ridiculous and archaic standard, you close yourself off from the spontaneity and creativity that a real connection requires. 

Credibility and rapport takes time, but creating attraction happens very quickly.  In fact, David Deangelo says that attraction is not a choice.  If you have attraction, you are now ready for rapport.  My model for rapport can be boiled down to this: finding what she is passionate about, what makes her unique, then complimenting her on it.  You also reveal these things about yourself.  The Dating Matrix and The Dating Matrix 28 day online program break this down into a series of steps and even include real audio examples of this process.  Freeing your mind to act in the now is a skill…and completely overwhelms useless old tired beliefs.

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