When I was out last weekend I ran into a girl whom I met a long time ago and dated briefly.  She’s from Columbia, with raven black hair, blue eyes, and a perfect smile.  She’s also a size 0.  Anyway, I met her @ Lincoln Road when she was at a table with 3 other girls and a guy.  At the time I was scared out of my mind but I still approached and opened her table.  In fact, that’s where I coined my patented change seats routine.  I’ll explain:  her friend was seated in between us, and we were talking around her.  I asked her friend to switch seats so I could sit next to her. At the time I didn’t realize the signal this was sending; I only wanted to avoid talking around her friend.  But I realize now it’s a strong move and definitely shows intent/interest.  Now I do it all the time without even thinking about it. 

At any rate, I created value/attraction with Diana and she gave me her number before I left.  I started texting her the next day and before long the conversation became filled with major sexual innuendo.  It got to the point that she wanted me to come over in the middle of a workday and see her.  I agreed and left my office and drove straight to her place.  She met me downstairs and we went to a nearby restaurant/bar for a drink.  I was so charged up I could hardly think.  Maybe that was the problem.  As soon as we got there, the conversation just died.  It was like we didn’t even know each other.  But I know why.  I was thoroughly intimidated by her.  She sensed it and closed up.  I tried everything but I just couldn’t recreate the magic we had when we first met.  It was humiliating, and the start of a long learning curve.

What I learned is that lasting development and success seems to come in stages.  It’s impossible to learn this method and be successful at every point of interaction before you have the experience.  You will fail.  Is this scary?  Does it frighten you?  Failing is more of a diagnostic than anything else. It tells you sticking points and where to focus on improving.  With Diana, I didn’t quite have the gears to get to the finish line.  At that time I could open and attract, but I was weak carrying it through the rapport and seduction stages. This effected my overall confidence and it was only a matter of time before that fact was exposed to me.

The difference now is the difference in outcome between Diana and my Argentinian 10 from Monday Morning’s Field Report.  My model has complete integration from beginning to end.  I no longer have holes in my game. And because I am aware of this I can relax knowing that everything will probably work the way I want it to.  My frame can’t be penetrated with self doubt and fear.  And I can’t self destruct because I’ve proven myself to myself in these situations over and over. Even though I still get minor butterflies with the exceptionally hot ones…keeps me feeling alive..lol

I chose MJ vs the Pistons for today’s pic because what I’m talking about is very similar to what he went through battling Detroit several years in a row in the Eastern Conference Championships.  MJ and his team had to learn how to win.  That took getting beat to obtain that knowledge.  But they got it.  And once they beat the Pistons they never looked back.  Are you still looking back?  Have you even taken the challenge yet?  The Dating Matrix will give you the knowledge…the rest is up to you…

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