Do you know why improving your outward appearance is important? Do you still believe you need to have six pack abs or your hair styled by Frederic Fekkai to approach attractive women? Making an effort to get in shape or improve your style is directly correlated to the degree to which you sub communicate your “social” value. Most girls are focusing on the congruency of what you say with how you say it. And the focus is far more on what you’re sub communicating (non verbals) than what comes out of your mouth.

When you take an active interest to effect change in a part of your life that before was left unaddressed or nonexistent, you create a new space inside yourself. You perceive yourself differently because you’ve become a different person. Overcoming challenges and accomplishing goals does that. This in turn changes the way you then communicate/sub communicate with others. Girls pick up on this.

 
Just the other night I ran into an old friend of mine. He had seen me recently on TV (NBC) and congratulated me on my success. He went on to say that when he was feeling a bit down or out of synch, his social “success” suffered. He just wasn’t able to approach and initiate with confidence. He’s right. Inner game and how you perceive yourself is the determining factor to your social success…

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