It’s really inevitable no matter where I go or who I talk to.  A majority of guys are so limited in their thinking when it comes to what’s acceptable in terms of what’s right or wrong on a date and physical escalation.  Should I kiss her or shouldn’t I?  If I kiss her is it ok to push it and go for more? 

I think the male attitude here is partly to blame.  It’s the concept that as men if we’re able to become intimate in a short amount of time, we’ve gotten away with something.  As if we have to manipulate women into bed.  If you feel this way has the thought occurred that women may enjoy sex as much as men?  And that it’s perfectly acceptable?

If your successful at being comfortable with yourself and expressing it verbally and non verbally than your success with women in this sense will be a condition of that reality.  By making yourself “attractive” (in terms of personality), you bypass many of what men and women consider the awkward stages of initiation.  If a woman senses that you are comfortable with yourself and can see that you handle transitions such as from approaching and opening to creating rapport, you put her at ease.  A confident, self possessed man is quite rare.  This in itself is compelling for any woman.

The point is most guys need training wheels when it comes to perceiving women as independent, intelligent, need based human beings.  Just like men.  If the focus can change from “What can I get away with” to “How do adults behave in a rapport building environment” that might help…

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