How important is it to constantly be touching, expressing your physical interest and changing the frame to one of sexual energy?  Quite simply it’s the difference between being placed in the “friend zone” or the “lover zone”.

None of these things are easy to do.  That’s why you must practice these concepts in the field until they become second nature.  But once you find yourself on the other side of the this equation, being able to freely express yourself physically and being comfortable with yourself as someone who women find attractive in a physically intimate way, you’ve made the jump.

How do you get there?  It begins with thinking about what kind of man you want to be with women.  Do you think women make a strong connection between physical intimacy and non confident, rigid, shy guys?  Or is it more likely a woman would find a man who embodies self belief , playfulness, and an engaging personality with the idea of  intimacy?

Simply put, the next step is you must talk the talk and walk the walk.  In other words, the image you have of yourself and who you want to be must be congruent with what you actually do.  I have a distinct frame from which I relate to women based on how it is I want to appear emotionally, intellectually, physically, etc.  It begins with the question “How would a strong, self identified, confident man behave around women?”  I defined what that meant to me.  I thought about how this person would handle themselves in relation to women.  I adopted this person.  I went out, practiced, and became this person.  It was always within me.  Just as it is within you. 

Remember, you are not changing the essence of your character, integrity or self beliefs.  You are simply defining the way you express these values in a way that enhances who you are.  And in the process, becoming very attractive to women and all people for that matter. 

Now back to the concept of physical escalation.  It takes balls to take a woman’s hand for the first time.  It takes balls to pull her close to you in a gentlemanly manner and initiate a kiss.  Just as it takes balls to change the frame of the conversation to one of physical interest in a witty, non offensive way.  Even when you perceive that she wants you to do so! 

My job is to put you in a place where you feel comfortable doing these things by giving you the theory/knowledge behind them.  The second step is providing you with action steps to put you in the field to execute.   This is where your congruency to whatever frame you want to create in how you are perceived by women will take hold.  After that you won’t even have  to think about it anymore-the result will be that you are just one of those guys who are good with women.

Its still amazing to me when I look back and see how if I were making the same mistakes or not taking action with the girls I date now, I would end up placing myself smack dab in the friend zone.  It’s a given that women whom I have intense physical and full relationships with now would have been nothing but fantasy’s or friends in my old life…I want the same for you and I know you do too…   

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