Why are you approaching that girl?  Why do you want to talk to her?  A lot of guys feel they have to conceal the fact that they have a physical interest in a girl.  It’s like a game where there’s a huge pink elephant in the room but no one’s acknowledging it.

Women don’t have a problem knowing a man wants to have sex with her.  This is everyday stuff for her.  It’s usually men who have the problem here.   Because most of us feel or have felt that it was something to keep hidden during the initial social interaction, most dates end with her telling her friends “…nice guy but no chemistry.”

So the question becomes how do you move the interaction from platonic to personal?  First of all, I don’t think you have 20 or 25 or even 15 minutes to do this.  I think its something you need to demonstrate verbally and non verbally as soon as you can.  You have to provide a reason as to why you like her physically and express it.  One way to do this is with a compliment:

 ”I like a woman with a sense of style.  I can see you put a lot of thought into what you’re wearing.  I like that in a woman.  What’s your name? 

You are personalizing this interaction, taking a risk, and asking her to reciprocate.  This is not friend talk.  Constructing interactions like this can change your frame from non direct innocuous opener to making her aware of your physical interest…and help you avoid the friend zone..

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