To realize any of your relationship goals you need to talk.  Attracting, creating rapport and dating girls is about talking.  And in the beginning stages its 90% you doing the talking. 

When you watch a football game, there’s always a play by play man as well as a color commentator.  The play by play is just simply the facts.  Third and goal, quarterback steps back, pumps once, hands off to the running back who’s taken down behind the line of scrimmage.  The color man adds life to the actual facts.  Think John Madden.  Emotions, off field stories, and what’s going through the players mind is what he brings to the broadcast.

We’ve already discussed men naturally emote very little, and most of our discussion style can be categorized as structured, elemental, linear and logical.  This is why many women leave dates with men feeling as if they’ve just been interviewed for a job.  It’s also why most men regurgitate the same lines when meeting women:  What do you do?  Where are you from?

The way to attract women verbally is by being the color man.  Just the facts is dry, limiting, boring, and lacks an emotional component women need to interpret and attach to you.   For instance, instead of saying “I went skiing in Colorado last month.  It was fun.”  Something like, “So we had to take this little airplane to the mountain,  you know the ones where you walk out to on the tarmac?  Seats about 12 people, propeller, you know all that.  I hate flying those planes!  So as I get to the stairs to get on board, the captain is standing there.  I thought he was the steward.  He looked about 17 years old.  Immediately I started to freak.  I’m like dude, tell me you just didnt get promoted from baggage.  How old are you? Blah blah blah

Make certain your attraction stories, screening, and clarifying conversations are based in emotion, not fact.. 

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