So much of a being successful in social interactions is finding out where you stand in real time with your target.  You have to constantly calibrate and recalibrate your content, frame, and non verbals throughout the process until you know you’re on track. 

Think of a trial attorney trying a case, or an educator lecturing his students.  Each is constantly checking the body language, demeanor, questions, energy level, etc of his perspective audience to make sure he’s being understood in whatever way he wants to be at that moment.  He’s creating a desired effect.

Same goes for when talking to girls.  You want to create a desired effect.  How will you know if you’re on track?  You should constantly be looking for confirmation from her through subtle yet demonstrative actions or statements.  These “indicators” confirm your course of action as creating the desired result or they tell you are off the mark and need adjustment. 

Examples of girls letting you know you’re on track include: 

1. eye contact
2. looking away then looking back at you
3. constantly smiling
4. touching you in anyway
5. asking you questions about anything
6. introducing you to their friends
7. asking for your number
8. compliments
9. maintaining the conversation

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