One good measure of the ability to approach, open, attract and create rapport with women is how you do it.  If a majority of the girls you date are from cold approaches-girls you’ve never seen before and are not part of your social circle-you’re creating a lot of work for yourself.  Each time you go out you’re reinventing the wheel. 

I know my chances of being comfortable and creating rapport and therefore a strong connection is increased if I’m introduced to a girl via a mutual friend.  In these situations credibility has partially been established. 

I’m constantly meeting new people and texting them periodically to keep the lines of communication open.  When I go out and see them it’s very easy to walk up and say “Hello” and often times they will bring me into their group.  This is why I frequent the same venues consistently.  I make sure to be friendly to the staff and make myself known.  I also pick non targets and males to speak with to increase my social proof and circle of acquaintances.  Showing up somewhere and knowing people is a very powerful demonstration of social proof and credibility. 

The quickest way I know to increase the girls I date and meet is to spend time expanding my social network. If you cold approach and open a girl and decide there is not a connection, I would urge you to retain her as a friend.  If she introduces you to another friend, then you’ve just added an additional member to your network.  The idea is that the more people you know the more opportunities you have…

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