Nearly all men experience some level of approach anxiety.  Unfortunately, approach anxiety is often part of a larger pattern of anxiety that usually doesn’t end after you’ve advanced past the opening.  It often appears when it comes time to advance the interaction non verbally as well. 

Why is this?  The reason is because we’ve been programmed socially as to what is acceptable and what isn’t.  We have an expectation level of the normal course and speed of interactions.  Whether it’s right or not, most of us operate under a limiting and rigid weight known as social pressure.  But when you’re able to create rapport quickly, perceived social norms are out the window.  This is exactly the reasons why some guys consistently experience same night lays while others take 10 dates to get there. 

And this is why you need to begin breaking down physical barriers by testing for physical compliance almost immediately.  Remember, incidental touch is the gateway that leads to direct touch, which is how you make your intentions known and allow her to be lead to physical intimacy. 

When you’re able to do this well, you’re resetting social norms.  You’re advancing the interaction because you’ve allowed yourself to discard the old way…which makes you discard the old you…interested?   The Dating Matrix…

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