Upside down
Boy, you turn me
Inside out and round and round
Upside down boy, you turn me
Inside out and round and round

Instinctively you give to me
The love that I need
I cherish the moments with you
Respectfully I see to thee
I’m aware that you’re cheating
But no one makes me feel like you do

-Diana Ross

Please forgive the cheesy 80′ lyrics of a long past her prime diva, but Diana Ross speaks the truth. It’s all about how you maker her feel.   Forget the hairline, W2, introverted persona, past failures, divorced dad with kids syndrome- focus on how many numbers can I get in a single night in a tough as nails environment as Miami…lol

For starters, focus on how you carry yourself physically when you enter a venue such as a restaurant, bar, club, book store, coffee shop.  (as well as during the rest of your life).  Since 93% of first impressions are based on non verbal cues, this is what both men and women are keying off of to interpret your viability.  Girls are not the issue here.  Your success with women is only an after effect or result of how you believe in yourself.  And there is no better diagnostic for women-who due to societal norms are not required to initiate- to judge your level of congruency.  What I mean by this is if you believe in yourself and your ability to handle uncertainty, it will show physically.  If you are uncertain of yourself and doubt your abilities, that will read loud and clear as well.

For those of us of who constantly put themselves on the line approaching and initiating with women, we have the knowledge that most of you don’t.  And that is what may appear as an impossible obstacle is actually very simple problem solving.  The real challenge lies not in approaching an initiating, but in transitioning to a state of rapport which then leads to getting her number, a kiss, a first date, and more.  Approaching and initiating is only the tip of the iceberg.  In fact, sometimes with students in field I challenge them to give me the most clichéd and ridiculous openers to prove that opening is the simplest part of the equation.

This is why many guys who have been blessed with good looks and are able to attract women physically, falter after the opening line.  They don’t know what to do next.  I am never intimidated by guys better looking than me because honestly most have no game.  Sure, there are times when some women base romantic decisions solely on looks, but in my experience even extremely attractive women are more interested in what comes after looks…

My first focus is on creating attraction, which I know is based upon an interpretation of how I represent myself physically.   I don’t care if I am ‘6 “5 or ‘5 “5.  I will only model myself upon how a man with supreme confidence would carry himself.  

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