So I was speaking to one of my physical trainers and he knows about my life and the quantity and quality of women in it, and he told me he senses opportunities with girls but can’t act on it.   His explanation is that he feels that women can’t be trusted.  I told him maybe he doesn’t trust himself. 

Until your mind and heart are in unison on what you want to accomplish, it’s almost impossible to do it.   This guy is obviously very sensitive, and in my opinion very inexperienced with women.  Why does he presuppose every woman that he may have the opportunity to meet and date wants a monogamous hard core long term relationship with him? 

As you begin this process, if you’re stuck feeling that even simple interactions with women are manipulative, contrived, and ultimately designed to take advantage, your problem resides in your own mind.  Once  I begin attraction and rapport, I’m on auto pilot because I’m representing who I truly am.  I often times don’t remember my opening lines (which are never that important) because it’s not scripted.  This is real my friends. 

For those of you who feel like my trainer, I will tell you the same thing I told him.  After a very few short interactions with women, you will lose the feeling of worry associated with taking advantage of them.   You are not fooling anyone.  My frame is not modeled after how can I trick her into believing I’m this or that kind of guy.  The fact is I generally only pursue those women who genuinely give me a physical or emotional charge. 

This is why putting yourself into these situations is the only way to work through it.  If not, it’s akin to reading a flying manual then never getting in the cockpit.  You will not know how it feels, the decisions you make, how you execute your knowledge, or how this truly perception expanding experience will effect you until you take the controls..

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