What do you do if you already have a positive self concept and the technical skill to approach, talk to, and date women and you’re still frustrated with your dating life? You need to analyze when, where, and how frequently you are applying yourself in this area of your life. You also need to introduce a measure of accountability.

STEP 1:

· First ask yourself, what kind of women am I interested in dating?

· Next, what type of relationship would I like to have with the type of women I want to date?

STEP 2:

· Am I currently dating any of the type of women I’m interested in?

· What kind of guys do girls like these date?

· If I were to go out to 2 places this week to meet these types of girls where would I go?

To develop and expand your social circle, you should first have a purpose for doing so. My purpose for advancing my social network revolves around meeting the kind of girls I want to date. One of my goals is to reduce my number of cold approaches by making my social circle work for me. I never want to be more than 2 people away from the person I want to meet.

STEP 3:

· What is your purpose for developing a new social circle?

Any system you employ to help achieve a result without a built in accountability record probably won’t help you much. I urge you to create a schedule of people/places you want access to and how often you are working toward achieving that goal. Improving your social circle takes time. What are you willing to sacrifice to create the time you need to be successful doing this?

STEP 4:

· Decide what you are willing to do without to free up the time necessary to achieve you social network goals

· When possible enlist the help of a likeminded friend who acts like a “training partner” and holds you accountable

· Create an accountability record that states your goal at the top and tracks each individual effort and its corresponding result

More to follow..

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