High value women….please forgive me if this isn’t all that coherent, but it was my birthday yesterday (Happy B-day Me!) and my friends made sure I didn’t make it home until 7:30 this morning…

In Mondays field report I explained that in today’s post I would give you the takeaway from that pickup…here goes…

Do any of you remember the movie Wall Street?  The part where Charlie Sheen’s character finally gets a meeting with Gordon Gekko and Gekko says “Well, kid, you were good enough to get in my office…the real question is, are you good enough to stay?”

Even if you are not an ex Wall Street trader you can appreciate what this statement means.  High value women are constantly upping the ante…and so should you.   How many number closes have I had in a club, restaurant, nail salon, party, mall, etc and never followed through?

This whole process is just one more aspect to your game.  Think Andre Agassi winning all 4 majors.  On 4 different surfaces.  That’s the kind of diversity in your skill set you should be aiming for.  Dates are just another surface or canvas to express your game.  And with hot chicks, or high value women, it’s a necessary component if you want real success.

When I see a hot girl and open her set, most times my routine is stacked so that it’s a very real possibility that we may end up leaving the venue together.  But often times the quality of women I approach (I mostly use direct openers which I cover in The Dating Matrix) doesn’t allow for that result.  I realize that after I walk away with a number close after a successful pickup that I have only just got my foot in the door, and it’s now that I have to really put in the work to get the outcome I desire.

At Sky Bar, Felicia made it apparent that she was not going to leave the club with me.  She wasn’t overt about it but after subtle testing and prepping I knew this to be the case.  I made sure I had set up a “date” before I number closed, realizing that I had to take this to the next level.

The point is, as much as I can teach you how to put yourself into these situations, you need to be just as good at recreating that same magic when you meet for a second time. That’s why I am a huge proponent of creating routines for these dates.  The Dating Matrix will provide you templates for this, but it then comes down to you as an individual.  Where do you exhibit a higher energy level?  What kinds of activities (shopping, hiking, art gallery, exercise, etc) do you find yourself really engaged and enjoyable that she can easily link to? 

The answer to that question, along with the proper verbal and non verbal structure will help give you the best chance to realize whatever outcome you desire…

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