The broader picture of successfully dating women you desire comes down to tactical skills and inner game. I’ve discussed inner game as the relationship you have with yourself. It’s based on many factors such as personal and professional achievements, how you move forward in life, accomplishment of goals, and general fulfillment with life activities. This is more a way of living/lifestyle, or body of work and therefore is the culmination of these factors over time. How does your inner game affect the way you relate to women? When you live your life like this, women and the relationships you have with them are simply an additional component which act to supplement it. They’re not how you identify or measure yourself. Women (and people in general) sense you have a lot going for you, and are naturally attracted to you. The outcome of any particular social interaction is not life or death and you are far more free to be yourself.

The other component is what I call tactical skill or skill set. These are the actions both verbal and nonverbal . Approaching, opening, attracting, creating rapport and dating women you desire are all part of a replicable, linear model.

My belief is that shyness/introversion is based far more on a lack of knowledge than anything else. The reason I feel this way is because I used to be that person. And what I found is that it all comes down to a question of knowledge you need to know how to ask out a girl. You need to know what to do, and when to do it. Nothing can ensure a 100-percent success rate, with dating advice you can gain knowledge you can use to put yourself in the best position to experience consistent success. And consistent success based on knowledge creates confidence.

For you guys who are exceptionally shy, lets pull you out of your shell a bit. I call this the Inclination to Initiate Exercise. For the next 7 days I want you to say “Hi” or “Hello” to 5 women each day while making eye contact and smiling. It doesn’t matter if she is looking at you or not, if you’re attracted to her or not, if she is on her cell phone or listening to an ipod. Make certain you meet the daily minimum standard of 5 by recording your results.

FOR THE NEXT 7 DAYS:

1. Smile
2. Make eye contact
3. Say “Hi” or “Hello” to 5 women daily

Eric Ivy
Dating Coach

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