I’ve gotten a lot of feedback regarding “Inner Game” and therefore I want to discuss it in a little more depth. The Dating Matrix provides you a template for “Getting Your House In Order”.  This includes your personal wardrobe, grooming, living space, and auto. 

I hear a lot of you saying that you are worried that getting in shape and getting a new haircut and wardrobe will change the essence of who you are.  In reality, it has quite the opposite effect.  It enhances who you are and helps to further define your uniqueness. How?  When you take of care of yourself, and I mean physically, spiritually, mentally, etc you develop inner character.  One outward result is you look better physically, and you carry a more positive vibe, but it’s only a consequence of you respecting yourself to improve and broaden who you are.  It’s really a case of you not pigeonholing yourself and allowing change and creativity to come into your life.

I’ll give you an example.  I once worked with a guy who went from smoking and being out of shape to a person who religiously worked out weekly and adopted a healthy lifestyle.  He become very strong, and told me he was able to squat more than double his body weight for numerous repetitions.  I was impressed-but much more so by the new confident way he carried himself as a result of these changes.  The muscles had manifested, but only after he had made the commitment in his heart and mind. 

Do you think I taught him during his conversations with women to specifically tell them how strong he was?  To name exercises and define the amount of weight he used?  Of course not.  That would be idiotic.  The fact is he never had to mention anything.  The transformation in the way he felt about and carried himself was all that was needed to demonstrate the kind of person he was.

That’s what inner game is.  It’s the all the things you do for yourself that demonstrate you have a positive relationship with who you are on the inside.  The outward effects are secondary.  In my opinion, this is what true attraction is.  Sure you can have a beautiful women in front of you, but if she is not alive, full of energy, excited by life and with some kind of passion, her beauty is meaningless.  How many times have you seen a guy who is less attractive completely captivate a group of people?  If it’s not his looks, what could it be?  I’ll tell you what it is.  It’s his energy, which is based on his own personal level of self belief, which in the end always carries the day… 

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