You want to be good at something?  I mean really good, better than the other guy, far better than you ever thought possible, so good you feel it in your bones?  So good you look forward to the challenge?  Whether you are a natural with women or have no skills whatsoever, if you are reading this my hunch is you are not satisfied with your success with women.

How do you get better?  Even with my experience, my game, and abilities I stay humble and low to the ground.  I don’t believe one ever stops learning while we are on this planet.  I know I can get better.  One of the reasons I believe this is because I don’t think I know everything.  If I did, my development would stop. 

Look at professional athletes.  Even guys like Roger Federrer and Tiger Woods are constantly striving for more.  They are not content with their success.  If you can look at your progress with women as on a continuum, always believing you can climb higher and higher, you will have the right attitude. 

I constantly write an analysis after nearly every date, each night I open sets, etc to analyze what’s working and what’s not.  Even after all the sets I’ve opened, dates I’ve been on, approaches I’ve made, that’s my level of commitment.  I don’t have a 100% success rate guys.  No one does.  And that bothers me.  I have lost the girl before.  I will again.  This does not make me happy.  If I am able to continue to spend time each day considering my game, how to improve it, researching and field testing new ideas, I can only get better. 

The other component crucial to success in this or any endeavor is personal responsibility.  If things don’t go the way I want, I don’t blame the target or external circumstances.  I point the finger at myself.  The reason why is because I believe I have the skills to handle any situation.  If it didn’t work out, it’s because I didn’t execute properly.  Or I misread something.  Or I didn’t follow my own rules.  Whatever.   For me to blame something other than myself means I have just put a ceiling on my potential. 

If you want to change your life, you have to practice.  You can’t just “turn on” these skills when you are at the club, bar, gym, mall, etc.  You have to make them part of your daily life.  They must become cellular, a part of your DNA.  And the only way to do that is to constantly spend time thinking, learning, plodding, and executing.   I can provide you the knowledge base, examples, and moral support, but in the end you have to provide yourself with the proper work ethic and attitude to achieve your results…

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