BABY ITS YOUR BODY YOUR BODY YOUR BODY CANT COMPLAIN
ITS THE THING THAT MAKES ME SAY
YEA YEA YEA YEAAAA
BABY ITS YOUR BODY ( YOUR BODY BODY )
YOUR BODY ( BODY BODY )
THAT GOT US GOIN CRAAAZZYYY
BABY ITS YOUR BODY

-Ja Rule

I have a confession.  Sometimes I get lazy.  Especially when I live in Miami, am competing against guys who say “so, what do you do for a living?” as an opener, and have the girls I do in my matrix.  So of course I could tell you that after 2 late nights at the office, 3 numbers later, and 1 missed hookup the second night, I was willing to call on my roster for Friday. 

I was feeling…hmmm…let’s see…Serbian…no…Columbian…no…Italian…no…ahhhh…Brazilian!  Cathia–if you recall– has vaulted to fame on these pages and has brought her tan from Rio (Ipanema) and body to match.  What I love about her is that she’s very sweet and serious minded, but looks anything but.  I can leave her at the bar and although some guys may approach, for the most part she just looks too intimidating.  

But Monday’s are reserved for new acquisitions in the Matrix, so I won’t spend too much time expounding upon a repeat.  Suffice to say the funniest line was when I ran into a male friend of mine at the S. Beach club we ended up at.  I introduced him to Cathia and he grabbed my arm and whispered in my ear “are you taking her home?”  My response: “is the sun coming up tomorrow?”

Last week I talked about rapport and a little about attraction.  When it comes to feelings and emotional intuition women have an unfair advantage over men.   Most men.  But there is one component to which they are completely oblivious.  Women are absolutely clueless about approach anxiety.  They simply don’t get it.  I’ve had numerous women completely downplay the concept.  For instance, girls will tell me “I don’t know what his problem was.  I completely gave him the signal I wanted him to come over and talk to me.  He waited until I was leaving and then approached me.  I was on my way out, why didn’t he do something when I was there.”

Fellas, I hear this from a far majority of the girls I date.  If you’ve been reading my blog, you know I love social dynamics.  Inevitably I steer the conversation towards these types of topics.  Anyways, a long time ago, once I developed my own social intuition and reading of body language, I promised myself I would act immediately if a woman was signaling attraction in any way.   If you’re reading loud and clear that she’s signaling you, and you fumble the approach by hesitating,  stalling,  or let the moment pass in anyway, you lose the edge of confidence.  You appear unsure of yourself, and as I just explained, women don’t understand approach anxiety.  They will write you off as not worthy almost immediately.  Knowing this, wouldn’t you agree that the greater fear is being perceived by women as lacking confidence than actually willing yourself to approach?  It is for me, and that’s why I made the decision.  I would rather get blown out/rejected in set than not approach and open and be perceived as weak and inadequate…

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