Bad dates are only a symptom of bad fundamentals. Ok, there are those rare exceptions when you deal with the occasional off balance freak show, but for the most part your dates should handle like an airplane on auto pilot.

Would it surprise you to know that I repeat my date templates over and over again? Why change what works? I always visit more than 1 venue, maintain attraction throughout the interaction, and breakdown rapport into what it should be: a mutual sharing of each others passions.

If you’re unable to consistently manage your social interactions into rapport, your problem is most likely systemic, not isolated. Ask yourself these questions:

1. What is the rapport stage?
2. What topics of conversation characterize it?
3. What is preventing me from directing the conversation into it?
4. Do I have content loaded and ready to go once we’re there?

My guess is that if you aren’t reaching rapport, your idea of physical escalation is attempting a good night kiss on her doorstep. Hello “Friends Zone!” Again, the problem is a basic lack of fundamentals.

A successful social interaction is built in steps, similar to building a house. Would you consider constructing the roof before the exterior walls were framed? Are you aware of how you would be perceived by those experienced in building if you tried such a thing? Are you aware that verbals and non verbals work hand in hand to create a frame that helps you achieve success with women? Most women are aware of this fact…and you should be too.

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