As you know, every Monday I file a field report from the previous weeks’ activities.  Over the past 6 weeks or so you have heard about girls I’ve “dated” (most cases very temporarily ) whom I  have sourced from a number of places.   The list includes my own social network, outdoor cafés, restaurants, as well as night clubs.

Now obviously I am at a different skill level than most of you.  I’ve approached and initiated with more girls in more places than most of you ever will.  But the point I want to make is that it’s critical you vary the places/activities/events/etc that you frequent constantly.  For instance you should not just be hanging out at nightclubs or bars to pickup women.  In fact, this should represent a very small percent of the places you go to approach and initiate with women.  

The Dating Matrix lists 40+ fixed places, activities, and events that you can frequent/participate/attend that will help you source the type of girls you would like to meet.  One way to alleviate a woman’s fear and create familiarity is over multiple interactions.  That’s why I suggest you visit the same restaurants, retail stores, dry cleaners, bank, etc. at the same day and time during the week. 

Whenever I go to the mall to shop or I go to a restaurant to eat, or the gym to workout, etc, I am constantly searching for girls that meet my ideal mate profile.  If I see a waitress I like, I simply frequent that restaurant on a consistent day and time.  For instance, for the past 3 weeks I have visited the same restaurant every Monday night at the beach.  It turns out there is a Greek goddess who doubles as a waitress I have become friendly with and we are now emailing each other.  This could have happened over 1 interaction, but I knew my chances of success would increase dramatically if I built this up over time. 

Remember, the more options you have the better.  Why limit yourself to 1 or 2 places when you can easily multiply the number of women in your matrix by expanding your focus.  Think more shotgun approach than tunnel vision.  What it really comes down to is a numbers game.  The more chances you give yourself, the more you will experience success…

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