I can’t tell you how many guys constantly come up to me and ask me for pickup lines.  They’ve completely convinced themselves that, if they only knew the right pickup line, their problems with women would end.  What they are really saying is, “I’m terrified by rejection, so tell me the magic words that will result in a 100 percent success rate of mutual attraction and thereby remove all my fears of approaching and initiating with women.”  Does this sound realistic? 

What you are learning in this program is a process, a process that consists of a structure or framework that you can apply to your interactions with women.  Since I can’t be with you every time you approach a woman, I can’t give you the verbatim words to use as an opening line.  What I can do is teach you how to create conversations using skills that can be used over and over in different situations every day. 

Hierarchy Overview

If your goal is to have fulfilling relationships with women you desire, you have a goal in flirting.  Basically that’s it-you desire this woman and want to express that to her in a comfortable, rapport-building way that gives you the best chance of her reciprocating. 

Now, of course, you don’t simply walk up to her, interrupt her, and say, “I desire to be with you in a romantic relationship starting now!”  Obviously, this is in violation of the Protocol of Flirting and therefore not appropriate.

Instead, you must create enough rapport to direct the conversation to a point where it’s appropriate to begin letting her know, through both verbal and nonverbal skills, of your romantic interest.  This can – and often does – happen very quickly, but the process usually follows a certain order of steps.

The Four Segments to Conversational Success

To give yourself the best odds of her returning your romantic feelings, you must steer the conversation toward her feeling romantic feelings.  Think about it, if you were speaking to one of your buddies about last night’s game, then, without any transition, began a dialogue about a fight you had with your sister in the fourth grade, the conversation might seem a bit strange.  Similarly, when you flirt with a woman, you have to lead her to that place where it makes sense for her to become aware of how you feel.

To understand and execute this process properly, you must become familiar with the chronological steps involved to build this in its natural order.  The Four Segments to Conversational Success are the steps that take a conversation from the initial approach all the way to expressing your interest and connecting on a romantic level.

The goal of The Dating Matrix is to teach you the skills which enable you to approach and initiate with women, create rapport through dialogue, express romantic feelings, and create romantic relationships.  What you learn will put you in a position to experience the highest rate of success on a consistent basis. 

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